Stress is what you feel when you react to pressure, either from the
outside world (school, work, after-school activities, family, friends)
or from inside yourself (wanting to do well in school, wanting to fit
in). Stress is a normal reaction for people of all ages. It's caused by
your body's instinct to protect itself from emotional or physical
pressure or, in extreme situations, from danger.
With all the things that happen at your age, it's easy to feel
overwhelmed. Things that you can't control are often the most
frustrating. Maybe your parents are fighting, or your social life is a
mess. You can also feel bad when you put pressure on yourself – like
pressure to get good grades or to get promoted at your part-time job. A
common reaction to stress is to criticize yourself. You may even get so
upset that things don't seem fun anymore and life looks pretty grim.
When this happens, it's easy to think there's nothing you can do to
change things.
Signs you're stressed out
Feeling depressed, edgy, guilty, tired
Having headaches, stomachaches, trouble sleeping
Laughing or crying for no reason
Blaming other people for bad things that happen to you
Only seeing the down side of a situation
Feeling like things that you used to enjoy aren't fun or are a
burden
Resenting other people or your responsibilities
Things that help fight stress
Eating well-balanced meals on a regular basis
Drinking less caffeine
Getting enough sleep
Exercising on a regular basis
How can I deal with stress?
Although you can't always control the things that are stressing you
out, you can control how you react to them. The way you feel about
things results from the way you think about things. If you change how
you think, you can change the way you feel. Try some of these tips to
cope with your stress:
Make a list of the things that are
causing your stress. Think about your friends, family, school and other
activities. Accept that you can't control everything on your list.
Take control of what you can. For example, if you're working too many
hours and you don't have time to study enough, you may need to cut back
your work hours.
Give yourself a break. Remember that you can't
make everyone in your life happy all the time. And it's okay to make
mistakes now and then.
Don't commit yourself to things you
can't do or don't want to do. If you're already too busy, don't promise
to decorate for the school dance. If you're tired and don't want to go
out, tell your friends you'll go another night.
Find someone to
talk to. Talking to your friends or family can help because it gives
you a chance to express your feelings. However, problems in your social
life or family can be the hardest to talk about. If you feel like you
can't talk to your family or a friend, talk to someone outside the
situation. This could be your priest or minister, a school counselor or
your family doctor.
What are some things that don't help you deal with stress?
There are safe and unsafe ways to deal with stress. It's dangerous to
try to escape your problems by using drugs and alcohol. Both can be very
tempting, and your friends may offer them to you. Drugs and alcohol may
seem like easy answers, but they're not. Using drugs and alcohol to
deal with stress just adds new problems, such as addiction, or family
and health problems.