Stress is what you feel when you react to pressure, either from the 
outside world (school, work, after-school activities, family, friends) 
or from inside yourself (wanting to do well in school, wanting to fit 
in). Stress is a normal reaction for people of all ages. It's caused by 
your body's instinct to protect itself from emotional or physical 
pressure or, in extreme situations, from danger.
 With all the things that happen at your age, it's easy to feel 
overwhelmed. Things that you can't control are often the most 
frustrating. Maybe your parents are fighting, or your social life is a 
mess. You can also feel bad when you put pressure on yourself – like 
pressure to get good grades or to get promoted at your part-time job. A 
common reaction to stress is to criticize yourself. You may even get so 
upset that things don't seem fun anymore and life looks pretty grim. 
When this happens, it's easy to think there's nothing you can do to 
change things. 
 
 Signs you're stressed out
     Feeling depressed, edgy, guilty, tired
     Having headaches, stomachaches, trouble sleeping
     Laughing or crying for no reason
     Blaming other people for bad things that happen to you
     Only seeing the down side of a situation
     Feeling like things that you used to enjoy aren't fun or are a 
 burden
     Resenting other people or your responsibilities
 
 Things that help fight stress
     Eating well-balanced meals on a regular basis
     Drinking less caffeine
     Getting enough sleep
     Exercising on a regular basis
 How can I deal with stress?
 
 Although you can't always control the things that are stressing you 
out, you can control how you react to them. The way you feel about 
things results from the way you think about things. If you change how 
you think, you can change the way you feel. Try some of these tips to 
cope with your stress:
 
 Make a list of the things that are 
causing your stress. Think about your friends, family, school and other 
activities. Accept that you can't control everything on your list.
 
 Take control of what you can. For example, if you're working too many 
hours and you don't have time to study enough, you may need to cut back 
your work hours.
 
 Give yourself a break. Remember that you can't
 make everyone in your life happy all the time. And it's okay to make 
mistakes now and then.
 
 Don't commit yourself to things you 
can't do or don't want to do. If you're already too busy, don't promise 
to decorate for the school dance. If you're tired and don't want to go 
out, tell your friends you'll go another night.
 
 Find someone to
 talk to. Talking to your friends or family can help because it gives 
you a chance to express your feelings. However, problems in your social 
life or family can be the hardest to talk about. If you feel like you 
can't talk to your family or a friend, talk to someone outside the 
situation. This could be your priest or minister, a school counselor or 
your family doctor.
 
 What are some things that don't help you deal with stress?
 
 There are safe and unsafe ways to deal with stress. It's dangerous to 
try to escape your problems by using drugs and alcohol. Both can be very
 tempting, and your friends may offer them to you. Drugs and alcohol may
 seem like easy answers, but they're not. Using drugs and alcohol to 
deal with stress just adds new problems, such as addiction, or family 
and health problems.